Forgiveness |
by
Dennis L. Medsker, D.C. & Bekki Medsker, CT, CSC
Medsker Publishing Company
Quinby, South Carolina
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Dedication
Many thanks to Dr. Doreen Virtue for being my teacher and sharing
what your Angels, Spirit Guides, and God has shown -you. Your
books inspired and motivated me to write this book for my family,
friends, clients and classmates so that they can feel the joy
of forgiveness.
I also want to thank Dennis, my husband, for his love, inspiration
and support. Life is wonderful when you’re with your soul
mate.
Forgiveness
There are many benefits of freeing yourself from the burden
of unforgiveness. But, sometimes the thought or task of
forgiving becomes a burden even to the point of being overwhelming.
The purpose of this book is to help and assist those with understanding
the simplicity of preparing and taking the action of forgiveness;
and the benefits gained through experiencing these steps.
I am sure there will be those who pick up and read this book
will question the importance of forgiveness or perhaps think
- why even bother. Just by taking the time to do these
simple steps you will find that it makes a big difference in
the things that matter to you. It may be your health,
family, spirituality, career, relationships and/or many other
areas. We have even included a discussion on daily acts
of forgiveness.
According to Webster’s New World Dictionary - "Forgiveness
is the act of giving up resentment against another or the desire
for punishment of another”. The thought-action process
of “Forgiving” is the step that allows you to stop
being angry and/or judgmental towards another and to start feeling
better about yourself. The origin of the word “forgiving”
comes form its root word “for-giving”. This word
gesture prompts us to freely release or give up any collection
of negative thoughts we may have about unforgiveness. And in
their exchange we begin to feel good about ourselves, as well
as feeling peaceful, joyous, and loved. Every individual act
of forgiveness towards others also releases it from your cellular
memory and body, as well. Hence, forgiveness is an act of spiritual,
mental, and physical detoxification, which allows your body
to replace undesirable qualities of sickness and disease (dis-ease)
with qualities of health and happiness.
The detoxification act of forgiveness has a far-reaching and
more profound physiologic effect on your body’s health
status, greater than what you might first imagine. If you can
touch into the roots of sickness and disease you can implement
a cure. Both health and disease have their roots in our minds.
What we think about and place into action, combined with what
we eat, becomes who we are.
We see many patients in our practice return to wellness by practicing
a holistic protocol of health acts including their acts of "Forgiveness".
And the act of forgiveness is a vital part of the body’s
ability to reconstruction of health. We have seen heart problems
begin to heal themselves when the individual decides to release
the negative burdens collected and carried through the years;
by using the easy to learn step-by-step acts of forgiveness
found in this book. Shoulder and neck problems automatically
start to heal themselves and disappear as early as the first
step in. The Forgiveness Book. Colon and digestive problems
subside negating the need for laxatives and anti-acids. If you
have an interest in how the body, mind, and spirit work together
to create their destiny, I highly recommend the book “Heal
Your Body”, by Louise L. Hay. This book is a great confirmation
of what happens to your body when you, intentionally or unintentionally,
misdirect your emotional feelings and thoughts. And, conversely,
the beneficial changes that come about when you start down your
road of forgiveness. Thus, the importance of forgiveness is
to create health and happiness by the act of forgiving. Forgiveness
includes forgiving both yourself and others. Forgiveness is
a vital part of the body’s health standards and, because
of this fact, is the reason why we use this book in our holistic
clinic.
Success Clue
Putting off the act of forgiveness until tomorrow is an easy
thing to do. In fact it is so easy that you may never start
and the longer you put it off the easier it becomes - to put
it off yet another day. Until one day you no longer can even
remember to think about it. Have you noticed that as you go
through life that “Success Habits” leaves clues?
Have you also noticed that “Failure Habits” leave
clues, as well? If you have noticed these behaviors may we make
the following suggestion, “If you are not practicing Success
Habits then by this very act, you are practicing Failure Habits.”
The choice of any habit, success or failure is yours alone to
make. But remember, whatever the decision, the choices you make
dictate the life you live. To your own heart be true. But Don’t
Procrastinate the success act of forgiveness.
Avenues Of Forgiveness
The immediate and complete forgiveness route is best accomplished
in person and face-to-face. However, face-to- face confrontations
may be initially conceived as the most scariest and undesirable.
But once you get over your stage fright you will find it is
the best way through the problem. And just as the pre-encounter
emotions will produce great feelings of uneasiness and anxiety,
the post encounter emotions will leave you feeling of joyous,
peaceful, and calm. With each face to face encounter the process
gets easier and easier until you eventually look forward to
the ones remaining.
If, for some reason, you are unable to have this type of forgiveness
meeting with each individual, your second best choices include,
writing a letter or placing a telephone call. However, you may
encounter the possibilities that the individual has moved to
an unknown address, or their name is unknown, or they could
be deceased. In this case the forgiveness list works perfectly.
Forgiveness is a wonder thing. So, if one or more of the above
situations should happen to you don’t be alarmed. And
do not worry that your acts of forgiveness will go unacknowledged.
Just have a little faith. If you trust, believe and proceed,
God and your angels will do the rest. The act of forgiveness
has a wonderful way of finding its own solution. As an example
the act of reciting the Lords Prayer finds us asking for the
“forgiveness of our trespasses as we forgive those who
have trespassed against us”. And although this is a general
type of forgiveness it sets the act of forgiveness into motion.
And this method works extremely well.
Following the act of any forgiveness you will notice a calmness
and peacefulness come over you. This feeling follows each and
every act of forgiveness. And many notice that their body’s
even feel “a sigh of relief’. They also feel that
heaviness leave their body as each burden is released and lifted.
The keys to your success for this forgiveness exercise are to
forgive and release everyone. Probable cause fits well here.
Or, in other words when in doubt - forgive them all. And remember
like all new things, new habits also require a break-in time,
which allow you to become familiar and acquaint yourself with
your new patterns of behavior. So, don’t be discouraged
if you find it difficult to perform and complete this exercise.
Just have a little faith, do the best job you can, and trust
and believe in these actions of righteousness and proceed.
One method that works well is to make a “Forgiveness Appointment”.
Write it down on your calendar or on your “Do-It”
list as an appointment reminder; just like you would do for
haircuts, pick-ups and deliveries, reminder calls, and to go
to the doctor. Forgiveness reminders are just as important!
And we know, like we have found, that you too will find it easier
and easier to say, “I forgive you - and I forgive myself.
So, in preparing for the forgiveness exercises don’t try
to complete the preparation process in one sitting. The Chinese
have a wonderful saying; “Every trip starts with the first
step. And - if the trip is a long one make each step shorter”.
As an example, I started listing the names of people in my book
that had irritated me over the days, months and years. As the
names came to me over the next
few days and weeks I kept adding them to my list. I was amazed
at the number of people I hadn’t thought of in years that
came to mind. Sometimes i couldn’t remember their names
so I would just list a description of the situation instead.
I have found that this alternative method works very well.
It was amazing how quickly the pages started to fill and how
I started looking forward to performing this forgiving act of
releasement. I listed everybody I could think of that had irritated
me. Your list may include family members, spouses, old boyfriends,
was-bunds, ex-wives, ex-significant others, children, stepchildren,
pets, friends, deceased people, rude sales clerks or anyone
you can think of and of course — you should include yourself.
Everybody should always include himself or herself! Even if
I had forgiven them before - they still made the list I wasn’t
letting anyone slip by this time. It is very easy to have 3
to 4 or more pages of names.
So, here are the simple steps:
1. Use the enclosed pages to prepare your list of names.
2. Choose one of the following affirmations or write your own
in the space provided.
3. Choose and make arrangements for a quiet place where you
will not be disturbed. I did my forgiveness releasement one
evening while I was attending a Spiritual Counseling Certification
Class. But you can do this in your home, the woods or anyplace
you choose.
4. Turn the phone off and put a “DO NOT DISTURB”
sign on the door.
5. Make sure you are not interrupted until you completely finish
you forgiveness list. The process may take 30 minutes or longer,
so don’t get in a hurry but rather give
6. With your forgiveness statement in front of you. Picture
the person in your mind and hold their image while you speak
your statement out loud. Ask God, your angels, spirit guides,
and/or archangels to help you see and feel the unforgiveness
or resentment being carried away. When you can see or feel them
being escorted away and out of sight you may then move to the
next name.
7. Remember to take each name individually and complete the
list.
There may be an area of forgiveness that some people may have
a very difficult time with. As an example in this lifetime they
have had someone do physical or mental abuse to them. If you
fall into this category remember, you are not condoning or approving
their actions. But what you are doing is releasing them from
your life so that you both can go on your own separate ways.
This act allows you to move forward once again down you own
life’s pathway without bringing them along (in your mind)
with you. In A Course of Miracles it states that we cannot judge,
only God can. If you are now willing and open to the act of
releasing them from your life we suggest that you add the following
to your forgiveness statement “I don’t condone or
approve of what you did, but I forgive you and myself and release
you in all directions of time
Forgiveness Affirmations
1. “You, (say their name), forgive me. You forgive me
and let me go. You forgive me and let the great ‘Christ
Love’ from within, find freedom and forgiveness into this
relationship, now. I (say your name), forgive you (say their
name). I forgive you and let you go. I forgive you and let the
great ‘Christ Love’ from within, find freedom and
forgiveness into this relationship, now.”
2. “I am willing to release that part of me that becomes
angry when I think of you. I forgive you and myself in all directions
of time.”
3. “I forgive you and i release you. I hold no unforgiveness
back. My forgiveness for you is total and complete. I am free
and you are free to go our separate ways.” “I forgive
you and myself in all directions of time.”
4. (Personal Forgiveness Affirmation)
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Note
The stronger the emotional feelings felt toward any one individual
will increase the number of times you will need to repeat the
forgiveness affirmation.
If, after allowing some time to pass, you still feel upset,
repeat the affirmation this time using your name in both parts.
That is to say, be both the other person and yourself in the
forgiveness affirmation.
My Forgiveness List
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If you need more lines draw them out.
Nightly Releasement
The forgiveness exercise should be done routinely on a nightly
basis. Why let your list build back up? Just as you brush your
teeth nightly it is equally important that a review of the day
be performed. Forgive and release anyone who has irritated or
upset you during the day. And don’t forget to include
the forgiveness of yourself, too.
Below are several examples of nightly forgiveness exercises.
The Corral Visualization
“The Corral Visualization” from the book The Lightworker’s
Way by Dr. Doreen Virtue has you take relaxing breaths and visualize
a corral with two gates at each end and a road that passes through.
When the gates are open everything flows easily, including your
supply of love and peace and also the love and peace you put
out to the world and others. When someone has irritated you,
made you angry, and you are holding unforgiveness towards him
or her. This holds you both corralled until you forgive them.
You will notice that both gates are closed. Nothing can get
in or out. Look inside your corral and see who is there. Then
visualize the gates opening and that they are walking away free.
Some people ask angels to come and escort them out or they have
a bus or limousine pick them and take them away.
The Magic Doorway
“The Magic Doorway” is one I use with patients that
need to release daily burdens and anger. I have you take several
deep breaths and close your eyes. You then walk up to this beautiful
castle and there a beautiful angel greets you. This angel takes
your hand and asks if you would like to come inside where it
is beautiful and peaceful. You can nod your head when you have
made your decision. The angel instructs you to leave all the
hurt, anger, burdens and unforgiveness at the door. They will
be there if you want to pick them up when you leave or the angels
will lovingly take care of them for you. As you pass through
the doorway with your angel you turn around a see the people
and burdens sitting on the other side of the doorway. You say
to them, “I forgive you and release you to go with the
angels in peace and all directions of time”. You turn
around and your angel guides you into this beautiful and peaceful
white light. You feel so peaceful, happy and light. As you walk
out the other side of the castle you notice that you still feel
peaceful, happy and light as you enjoy a restful night of sleep.
Knowing that your angels watch over you and protect you.
Some of my patients have tape-recorded the above and play them
nightly. Or you can use the “Chakra Clearing” tape
by Dr. Virtue when you feel the need for a guided meditation.
This is a wonderful resource to use since it has a morning and
evening meditation. These will help you with daily forgiveness
acts and exercises, as well.
I would like to remind everyone that we create the world we
live in and that we have a direct effect on the earth. The earth
and are bodies have the same composition - water, organic material
(dust) and magnetic electrical energy. When we are a vessel
of unforgiveness and anger the earth mirrors it. What we put
out, we get back.
So it is important to teach our children about forgiveness.
Teach them these simple steps so they can have joy, peace, and
harmony all their lives. It is just as important as prayer,
meditation, manners and the 3 R’s.
So please use this book for your family, friends, clients and
patients. We see many people in our practices that have benefited
greatly from this simple and easy-to-do exercise. We hope you
will, too.
Suggested Referenced Readings
Hay, Louise L. Heal Your Body: The Mental Causes For
Physical Illness And The Metaphysical Way To Overcome Them.
Carlsbad, CA: Hay House.
Virtue, Doreen. The Lightworker’s Way: Awakening Your
Spiritual Power To Know And Heal. Carlsbad, CA: Hay House.
Chakra Clearing: Awakening Your Spiritual Power to Know and
Heal. Carlsbad, CA: Hay House.
Chakra Clearing: A Morning and Evening Meditation to Awaken
Your Spiritual Power. Carlsbad, CA: Hay House. Audiotape.
Foundation for Inner Peace. A Course in Miracles. Glen Ellen,
CA.
Webster’s New World Dictionary, Second College Edition.
New York, NY: Prentice Hall Press. |
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